My friend was telling me a story the other day about a situation he was in the other day that got him thinking of the true meaning of racism. He was talking to the other guy on a double date and the subject turned to race. My friend thought that, since other guy was black, he'd be willing to engage in a dialog about race that could be beneficial to both of them. I guess it didn't go more than a few minutes without the discussion getting heated. In the end, my friend felt like he'd done nothing wrong (and by his account I would have to agree) - yet he felt that he should explain his intentions to the other guy. The next day he talked to him - just in case he'd mistaken them. This also backfired, and my friend was left further dissatisfied with the outcome.
I can feel my friend's frustration in this case. We're both white and hang out in a mostly white crowd, and I think I can speak for both of us when I say we have little to go on when dealing in such situations. However, I don't think this is really much of our fault. Had I been in the same situation, I bet it would have gone similarly. There seems to be a huge divide in America between white and black cultures that prohibits much mutual understanding of each others' situations.
I'm sure that there is plenty of blame to go around. On the one hand, it's true that whites were the ones to enslave their ancestors as well as impose blatantly racist laws until very recently – some less obvious ones are still around. On the other hand, it does seem like some segments of American blacks need to get past their history and look toward the future.
I think that, before we can talk about racism, we need to define it. This is tough. The word is thrown around a lot. To me, the suffix “-ism” generally refers someone believing in the power of whatever the prefix is – in this case race. This is where it gets dicey. Does it mean someone who believes there are any differences between races (or that there are races at all), or does it mean someone who believes there own race to be somehow superior? Most textbook definitions appear to focus on the latter – a hatred of all other or another race. I believe that the first definition is really closer to how the word is being used today though.
For instance, if you conduct a research study that shows some ability to be better in one race than another you're called a racist in the court of public opinion. To me, I think that all data is useful and that, as long as there is no inherent bias, the researcher should go unpunished for their findings. There are other examples that hit closer to home like a new set of vocabulary to describe any minority (racial or otherwise. I think the invention of the term “African-American” is part of the modern newspeak known as political correctness.
To me, I think we're all racists under this modern definition. Anyone who generally associates specific factors to any race is a racist. I don't buy it. No one can honestly tell you that they don't predict certain behaviors based on how a person looks and carries themselves – yes, that includes race. This is called a “stereotype”, and they are quite taboo – at least in public conversation. Everyone knows though that every stereotype is actually based in some fact. Being a white male, I can honestly say that I'm horrible at dancing, and that I am comparatively uptight / polite. I think everyone uses their past experiences to predict future behavior, and data suggests that different cultures (which are roughly defined by race) have measurably different behaviors. This is something not unique to humans, animals do the same thing. I'm not sure why it's so bad to recognize this natural phenomenon.
In America, there also seems to be a taboo with even discussing race at all. Probably because of situations that my friend was involved in. I'm wondering why they always end poorly. I'm reminded of a South Park episode: “With Apologies to Jesse Jackson”. In this episode, one of the kids is trying to apologize to his one black friend for his father's racist actions, but the friend won't accept his apology or explain himself. In the end, the first kid says “I get it! - I don't get it!”, meaning that whites will never understand how black people feel about racial slurs – they should just accept it. I have to say that I reject this notion completely. Why is it that, in a world so intent on finding a possible explanation for every emotion and feeling, an issue as large as this is unfathomable by those on one side?
I think this must be partly due to some type of enculturation effects on both sides. I grew up with racism as a taboo, but it doesn't mean I wasn't exposed to it. Everyone from strangers to family had a remark now and then, however we were always told it was a very bad to be “prejudiced”. This was the buzz word that we had drilled into us since kindergarten. I think it's funny because it seems you never hear this word outside this context anymore. It's real meaning just means to prejudge, which I'd argue happens every waking moment of everyone's life.
Racism during my high school was really more of a joke than something you actually believed in.When Chappelle's Show came out, everyone was reciting the lines to each other, but I can't think of anyone who actually believed the quotes. On the contrary, I think the show actually is a good conduit for a discussion on race. Jokes usually have some basis in fact, and satire often helps break the ice. For this reason, I applaud their efforts – even if it was just a comedy show.
On the other side, I'm sure that the black community has a whole other view of the issue. I think their youth still feel a passion towards the issue - unlike my own side's which leans towards apathy. I think most white Gen-Yers accept racial equality as given and only have their unconscious biases to deal with. It seems like the black side still feels oppressed. There is good reason. They often live in more dangerous neighborhoods and have tougher lives than the average Gen-Y white kid ever has.
I think the only solution to this mess is changing these biases at the bottom level. I'm sure the mind's biases are able to be changed – meaning that, if our experience tells us something different than our previous beliefs, we will adapt our perceptions and, yes, our prejudices. This means that race education isn't really going to do much if the behavior that creates stereotypes keep reinforcing those old beliefs. It was once a stereotype that blacks were unathletic. The real world showed us plenty of awesome black athletes, and our perceptions changed. If whites don't improve our dancing, I don't see why the generalization that we suck at it should change – improve it or accept it.
The media also plays a critical role in this as well. You always see black people interviews when the talk about welfare reform, and it seems like missing-cute-white-girl stories are far more numerous than ones with black girls. Another common one is how many people think all Middle Easterners are Muslim fanatics. The media has somewhat helped promote this condition. However, most of these people have never seen or even talked with someone from those countries.
The more I travel, the more I find oneness with the human condition. Yes, there are many cultures and some people have harder lives than others, but I think we can all connect with one another by our vast human similarities. Really, cultures need to intermix to truly understand one another. I always make an effort to talk to people from different backgrounds because they will challenge your perspectives. If you're a right wing Christian, talk to a French person about socialism and a Swede on religion if you'd like to have your world view turned on end.
In the end, let's just stop focusing on race at all. We're all beings that share a collective past and future, and we need to stop thinking in these useless groups. Yes, there are cultural differences, and some people will not like all of them. Deal with it – such is life. Get over your little ego and stop taking “offense” to anything. Let's all just pursue our own happiness without regards to whether someone things our race is better or not. I think in the end this will lead to much more understanding than anything the Ad Council comes up with.