Whenever I deconverted from
Christianity, I was left with a big hole in my life. I thought the
whole time that my purpose was to fulfill the word of God. Without
this divine duty – how does one find their purpose? I did a lot of
soul searching, and I came up with this (perhaps cheesy) framework to
do so. The idea is the concept of a multi-circle Venn diagram of the
facets of your life. I'll go through my path on how I made my purpose
to explain how it works.
Physics
The outer & all-encompassing ring
is physics itself. We shouldn't be trying to self-actualize through
time travel, becoming god, etc. This is the same for everyone – if
not for you, please disregard this model...
Morals & Philosophy
The next inner ring is that of your
morals & philosophy. This is a tough subject and obviously much
more subjective than the first. I think we all have to this layer
well fleshed-out before truly self-actualizing. This exercise is a
supreme example of the “Know thyself” principle. The key to doing
this is opening your mind completely. You must not be afraid of
challenging any of your beliefs. In fact, you must put each of them
to the test. Find people with very different points, debate them,
learn from them, etc. Your view will and should evolve and develop
with time – everyone's does.
In my worldview, I went from Christian
neo-conservative to atheist libertarian – more info on the path I
took in this post. I moved from fundamentalist and moral absolutist
to someone who believes that all things exists in the gray areas and
all things have a degree of relativity. This is due to all sides
having some good points.
What You're Born Into
The previous two rings were
constraints; the last two are more to find our range of real choices.
Now that we know our worldview, we must find out the best way of
living within it. One of the major contributors to the choice is what
condition we're born into. A peasant in Afghanistan has a very
different consideration set than a middle class American like myself.
In my case, I wasn't born into poverty
or great wealth. I couldn't have been a young champion at yachting
because we never could have afforded that. We also mustn't let this
constrain us too much. Just because you're from the ghetto doesn't
mean you have to stay that way. One of the best things you can do
here is look for comps – comparable people. Look at what people
like you have done – I'm guessing if you're reading this you have
plenty of opportunity. Also, we have to look at our resources.
In my case, I was born into a middle
class family who had enough money to provide me with books,
computers, internet, a car, an allowance, etc. I'm sure many others
aren't this lucky, and I owe them a massive debt of gratitude for
where I am today. That said, there are also limitations. My parents
aren't rich enough to invest a lot in my startup. I didn't have
access to entrepreneurs and successful people my whole life.
What You're Born With
This is about talents and interests,
while derivative on your upbringing, they're often quite different.
Each of us has to do some soul searching to find out what we love and
what we're good at.
For me, I've always been one to love
technology, science, politics, philosophy, etc. I grew up with a
“lab” in my garage or basement my whole life. I love knowing why
things work, I love trying to improve things, and I love creative
control of my projects.
The Target: What Remains
This part of it is the hardest. Many
people will go through the exercise without being able to answer the
questions adequately. I think if this doesn't work you, you need to
solidify those areas above to have a better understanding of who you
are. Challenge yourself, your views, your life to this point. It's
okay to undergo massive change because the payoff of
self-actualization is worth the struggle, and actually we should all
love the struggle. Below is my case and my logic. I'm sure for each
of us it's different, but maybe it could help.
I thought at first I wanted to be a
scientist or engineer, but I was dead wrong. I love technology, but I
hate details, these kinds of people love the little details – they
have to. Engineering, at least as a profession, was out.
So where to go? I looked at comparables
and read a lot biographies to see what others had done. I was
inspired again by Edison who was not really an engineer but a
hacker-entrepreneur. I thought about politics too. I'd love to fight
the good fight. I interned at several campaigns and found out what
that was about – hint: not the good fight. I wanted to see if the
corporate world was good for me. I took an internship at a
tech-transfer office – that barely lasted a couple months. I hated
being controlled by people who had no vision and looked at me as
little more than labor / number cruncher.
At this time, I eliminated most fields:
all the arts (no talent); hard science (no attention span); history,
sociology, psychology, etc. (lack of impact), and so on. What I found
was that I needed to find what job allowed me to solve big problems,
work with technology, and remain independent. The choice of career was clear:
entrepreneur.
The issue here is entrepreneur to what end? Using the moral and philosophy I defined for myself, I wanted to dedicate my life to giving people the capabilities to self-actualize themselves. I wanted to remove as much coercion as possible. These two will allow us to make a lot of mistakes and eventually find what we love. I know that's how I found what I love at least.
My purpose: To work to better allow humanity to self-actualize (meta isn't it?) by using technology to enhance our capabilities and activism to remove coercion. This is my stated purpose, and it's why I founded my company and a non-profit. Ghandi said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” I try to live by that every day.
Execution
I'm still in this phase, but it's the
best (and final) one to be in. You're testing your hypothesis. I feel like my
hypothesis is testing quite well right now, and whether this company
succeeds or goes down in flames - I know I'll keep on trying because
the ride is half (most of) the fun. If your choice proves wrong,
correct and try again. The journey of life allows us to try many
things, make mistakes, and keep running. Don't waste your life doing
what you're not passionate about. Especially if you're young, you
have nothing to lose. It's probably now or never.